Parents Guide to Bullying Prevention

Bullying Facts

  • Many students miss school because of fear (Olweus).
  • Boys are more likely to bully others.
  • Girls and boys bully differently (boys—physical; girls—social).
  • 19% of students in grades 6-9 reported bullying others “sometimes” or more often during the school term (Nansel, 2001).
  • 23% reported being bullied “several times” or more frequently (Melton, 1998).
  • Older students and boys are less likely than younger students and girls to report victimization.
  • Most bullying is verbal rather than physical (Mullin-Rindler 2001).
  • 60% of bullies in grades 6-9 had a criminal  conviction by age 24.
  • Victims fear retaliation, so very often they do not report acts of bullying.

If Your Child is Being Bullied

  • Don’t panic. Listen before you react.
  • Avoid blaming your child.
  • Don’t tell your child to fight back; instead, teach them to be assertive and use words to stand up for themselves.
  • Help kids learn strategies to avoid encounters with bullies (safety in numbers).
  • Instruct your child to walk away and get adult help.
  • Tell the school immediately and keep a written record of what happened.

If Your Child Bullies Others

  • Take the problem seriously.
  • Supervise your child’s activities/computer use more closely.
  • Don’t tolerate behavior that hurts others and respond swiftly and consistently by restricting time with others.
  • Help your child make amends.
  • Be a good role model—avoid using bullying behaviors at home.